✅ Part 2: What To Say To Men - After Abortion
- 4 days ago
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Because What You Do Can Make the Difference Between Silence and Healing
When a man opens up about his abortion grief, he isn’t asking you to rescue him. He’s asking you to walk with him through fire. This isn’t about having the right words—it’s about being the right presence. Every man processes differently, but what he needs most is someone who will honour his journey without judgement, pity, or pressure.
These Do’s aren’t suggestions. They are anchors—for him, and for you.
✅ The Do’s...
Ask him, “How are you doing?” Open the door. Let him know you're safe.
Allow him to talk about the abortion. Even if it's uncomfortable, don’t shut him down.
Try to just listen. Let him speak freely, without inserting your opinions or discomfort.
Do allow him to express his anger, regrets, and remorse over the abortion. Emotions are sacred, even the messy ones.
Expect and accept his frequent shifting moods—whatever they may be.You are not there to judge or “correct” him.
Validate his loss and help him feel less alone. Say things like: “You’re not crazy. You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.”
Allow him to be sad and to cry. Grief has tears—don’t shame them.
Be genuinely concerned and show care. Sometimes a simple touch or hug can comfort more than words ever could.
Encourage him to visit www.thegreatunbornwall.com. Help him find a place to honour his child and his pain.
Remember the Four Paths of the Unborn Father. He can heal, but only with your compassion, validation, and support.
Keep reaching out. A call, a text, a visit—don’t let him drift into isolation.
Notify a doctor or someone else if you notice signs or hints of suicide. Don’t dismiss red flags. Take action.
Respect his privacy. Never tell anyone about his abortion unless he gives clear permission.
Affirm his fatherhood. His child may be gone, but he’s still a father in grief.
Allow spiritual questions and doubt to surface. Don’t rush to answer—just hold space.
Offer presence, not platitudes. Sit with him. Be still. Don’t fill the silence with clichés.
Believe his story. Don’t question the depth of his pain just because you can’t see it.
Be patient. Grief doesn’t run on your schedule. Let him move at his own pace.
Every one of these Do’s is a bridge—a way back to trust, identity, and hope. Don’t underestimate what your presence can unlock in a man who’s been carrying quiet torment. This is not about rescuing him. It’s about standing beside him while he gathers the pieces of who he was, and who he still longs to be.
And if you’re truly listening, you’ll find that helping him heal will change you too.
🛡️ Guardian, this is your calling.
But your role doesn’t end here. In Part 3, we’ll walk deeper into how to remain a steady companion on his healing journey—through legacy, memory, and meaning. Until then, visit The Great Unborn Wall to learn more. Stand firm. Stay close. Speak life.
Read Part 3: Avoid the Clichés
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